I have an aversion to mornings. For reals, I sincerely wish they didn’t exist. I truly wonder why we can’t just wake up at 10am and start the day with brunch?
Even at age 40, mornings are still difficult for me. I do have good days – but most involve my alarm (or a child) waking me up and ME wanting to roll over and close my eyes for “just a few more minutes”. When I do finally pry my eyes open – I still don’t really want to move. It takes me awhile to get up and at ’em! (AKA get out of bed). However, I have gone thru spaces in my life when I have been up and going by 5 or 6am and I have to say, that I am consistently AMAZED what I can get done by 9am on these early morning days. Even so, I am POSITIVE that I will never love mornings. (although I do LOVE what I accomplish). I may learn to tolerate them – but there WILL be no love.
I have always believed that life is what you make it. What you put into it – you get back, and therefore, I put in 110% most of the time. Deep down, due to this belief – I know it’ll come around when I need it. AND IT DOES. Most of the time.
But I’m getting ahead of myself . . . I want to take you back to my younger years for a minute. You see, there was this girl . . . whom I looked up to and admired (there were many – but this one was different.) Over time we became really close friends and spent lots of time together. She was admired by many – mostly due to her kindness, her sincere love of those around her – no matter who they were (and in HIGH SCHOOL this is BIGGGGG!), but it was more than that. She was . . . HAPPY. Like truly, non-teenager like, HAPPY. ALL the time. This friend didn’t let little things get to her, she always assumed the best in everyone and tried to find ways to make them happy. She included those that others would purposely not invite or include and did it all with a smile on her face.
I always longed to be like this friend – but let’s be honest – I’m human and I’m a woman so there’s that. Not that I was unhappy or a sad child. I had a wonderful childhood. But she inspired me and I began to set goals so that “little things” began to bother me less and less, I would try (sometimes with teeth clenched) to assume the best in others and little by little – I began to “realign” my reality with what I wanted it to be.
Positivity isn’t a trait that most are born with.
It’s made. Often in the trenches. It begins as a choice and over time, becomes a habit. We CHOOSE to react and respond to the things life throws in our path. We can CHOOSE to “assume the best” in each person and situation we come across; OR we can choose to be annoyed & frustrated about all the little things. Ultimately – it is a CHOICE. It is OUR choice. We CHOOSE our own reality.
So, what IS positivity? The google dictionary says :
the practice of being or tendency to be positive or optimistic in attitude.
I love this definition. Esp. that it includes the word practice. It isn’t a way of being. It is a practice – something we attempt (or choose) to do repeatedly and as we all know, practice makes perfect (eventually). Over time this “practice” becomes a part of who we are. It even gets to a point where we no longer have to entice ourselves to make the “choice” to choose positivity. THIS is the goal – for it to become so ingrained in who we are – we no longer have to think about it. We no longer are even concious that we are “choosing” it. It just is . . .
Looking back on this friend from my youth – the two things I am MOST grateful to her for – is that she taught me by example to assume the best in everyone I meet and she taught me to CHOOSE to be happy.
Remember my morning aversion? I still WANT to lay in bed every morning and beg for “just a few more minutes”! But on the days I CHOOSE to get up (quicker than normal), possibly squeeze in some exercise and put a smile on my face – I am always amazed at HOW much better my days are. It’s like I am mentally saying, “Bring it world, I got this!” Life IS what you make it. You too – can begin to realign YOUR reality with what YOU want it to be. So – CHOOSE!!
Choose to assume the best in others.
Choose to not let the little things get to you.
Choose to get out of bed and PUT a smile on your face.
Most of all, CHOOSE to be happy.
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